There is a gift for us in each relationship that God brings our way.  Through the healing process, we need to see the good things that came out of it.  It’s never all bad and really most of what we had with that person was pretty good.  We tend to focus on the bad stuff and the situation that broke us apart.

Sometimes the gift is a behavior we are learning to acquire: self-esteem, becoming confident, or just owning your own power to be who you want to be.  I have grown tremendously in the past 6 years.  Yes, I can look back now and see the relationship wasn’t everything I needed or wanted, but I did come away stronger, more confident, and empowered. I have great memories that I will have the rest of my life.   I thank him for that.

Sometimes we find ourselves learning the most important lessons from people that we least expect.  There are those that teach us to love ourselves, how to love others, and maybe let someone love us.  The latter being the most difficult at this time in our healing.   There are those that come into our lives briefly, just to carry us through a difficult time.  And then there are those that show us what we were lacking or didn’t give the other in our previous relationship.  Facing what we need to improve on is never easy, but gets us closer to finding out who we are or want to be.

Often times we are not sure of the lessons we are learning until we our outside of it.  Every relationship gives us something to help us move forward in life and learn about who we are.  Trust that the lessons are truly what we need at that time in our life.  As I have said many times, learn from your pain.

We are still healing at this point.  Although we begin to think about having someone to share our life with again.  We look at what we learned from the previous relationship to help us with the new one that will come along when God feels we are ready.  Don’t rush it.  We have to come to a place where we are happy with who we are before we can let someone else in.  Some of you may think you are there and maybe you are; take it slow.  Then there are those, (maybe you) that went after the first person that paid attention to you and yes, I know, you thought this was it.  But you were not ready.  That is one of those relationships I talked about in my “In Love” blog that only lasts a few months.  You’re not in love.  And then you get discouraged and feel like you’ll never have a relationship with anyone.  You didn’t give yourself time to heal.  Take the time now.  If you need others to build your self-esteem and self-confidence, then you have some things to work on.  Those behaviours need to come from within.

So, today, be grateful for your relationships.  Open yourself up to the lessons and the gifts from the people in your life.  Trust and know that you are also a gift in someone elses life.

Keep moving forward!

Kimberly Rae