Smile Because It Happened!

“Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened!” ~Gabriel Garcia Marquez

I found this quote rather poignant for the last 11 months of my life. Some of you may be able to relate to this as well.  It spoke to me and I felt I needed to share it.

This past year has been a trying one for sure.  I look back and see how far I’ve come but also how far I still need to go.  I don’t think we ever “arrive” and if we do we can no longer grow.

My mother used to sing the song, “Cry Me a River” when I was younger. I remember it well.   I think I’ve cried a river this past year and then some; yes, it’s over.  But I’ve seen myself grow as a person because it happened.  I’ve seen what I didn’t have and what I could have had.  I gave all the love I had to give and it was crushed.

We are where we are because of the choices we’ve made in life.  It takes courage to change where we’ve been and to move forward in a different direction.  Letting fear of the unknown keep us from making those positive changes in our life is lacking faith in God.  Trust him.  We can justify where we are and who we are with in our life , because we have to in order not to feel alone or empty.   Let go of that fear and let God be your safety net.  Listen to God and yourself. Together you will find what truly will bring happiness into your life.   No one can do it for you.  Let me ask you: Are you where you want to be in your life?  Take that leap of faith!

As the holiday season creeps in, I fight that feeling of loneliness. There is no fear though. I take one day at a time and treasure the moments I had The past year.   I am the hopeless romantic.  But  I won’t compromise on what I want in a man and a relationship.  I’ve taken that leap of faith.  God’s hand and guidance keep me strong.

I’ve cried my river.  The new year will begin soon.  I can’t wait!  With a smile on my face and joy in my heart, I look forward to what 2012 brings.  I know God’s plan is all coming together for me.  He’s got my back.  I trust him completely with my life.  You should too:)

I cried when it was over, but I’m smiling because it Happened!

Kimberly Rae

3 thoughts on “Smile Because It Happened!

  1. Denny

    Ah!…..Live Bold Life with a new bold design and layout. The designs and colors remind me of sitars, The Moody Blues, and chanting OM!!! into the infinite void. Your growth has been extraordinary; not only this last year, but since I’ve known you the past six years or so.

    Why is that we feel we have to have a significant other in our lives before our lives can be validated or have worth? It’s not that we haven’t had that before and it’s not that we won’t have it again. Perhaps God knows that we need a break to reflect on what has happened in our lives up to now, and that we need time for the solitude missed during the last love that was supposed to end our perpetual lovequest.

    Don’t get me wrong. Loving and sharing our life with someone else is right up there with bacon and Bambi. But sometimes we need to get grounded…we need some soul searching…we need to get our priorities figured out…and, we just need to get down to the funky chicken dance with a laughing God.

    One of my favorite sayings from back in my recovery days is…”Life is way to serious to take too seriously.” Maybe we need to figure out where we’re going and then we can find who wants to come along with us. Otherwise, life can happen and pass us by while we scan the crowd.

    “For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord.
    Plans for good and not evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
    Jeremiah 29 11

    Thank you for taking the time to share.


    1. Denny,
      yes, my new page design reminds me of the 60’s, very bold and free and full of life.
      I agree with your comment. Its sad when you see people going from one person to the next to get that fix. Those relationships usually dont last. We should all take a break when a love has come to an end. We need to reacess our lives. Take time to heal and be able to take care of ourselves and not depend or use others to do that. Growing is never easy. It requires a lot of change on our part. And some just can’t get past the fear. We do not need someone in our life or our bed to make us feel worthy or to rev up our selfesteem we have to find that on our own.


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