Letting Go

How much do we need to let go when we have ended a relationship?  Can we hang on a little and still be friends?  Talk weekly, but not see each other?  I thought I could do all that.  I just couldn’t break that last thread  to the relationship we had for so long.  This has been a 10 month journey for me. If you have followed my blogs you know the ups and downs of recovery.  As we grow from our pain, we also take a few steps back now and then.  And that is okay:)  It is part of the recovery process.

Letting go is an emotional, spiritual, and mental process of releasing to God and all that surrounds us that we have so tightly clung to.  We have to let go of our grasp and that feeling that we have to control our progress as we are healing.  Letting go is saying you have faith in the Lord above that he will bring you through this and there will be something so much better on the other side.

When we hang on so tightly, we cannot see the problem, change who we are, or go after the desires we only dream about.  We impede our movement when we don’t let go all the way.

I came to this realization this past weekend.  As hard as it was to break that last tie, I knew if I didn’t I couldn’t continue to move forward.  I was stifling my progress.  As we let go, we may have that empty feeling in the pit of our stomachs and feel like we have lost them all over again.  It will pass.  I surrounded myself with my students and let them put a smile on my face.

It was a hard day. Knowing I would never talk to him again brought a few tears for sure.  I will miss our long, in-depth conversations, our discussions on books, and sharing our spirituality. I am missing the memory of him and what we did.  I know he isn’t capable of giving me what I need in a relationship; even with that said, it doesn’t make it any easier.

We can’t let our feelings and emotions control who we are and what we do.  We can’t find the peace that God so wants us to have if we continue down that road.

So…the red handled scissors came out and I cut the cord.  I don’t feel the tension dragging me as I push to move forward.  I am free to sail and sail I will!

Today, give yourself permission to take care of yourself with the emotional, mental, and spiritual freedom!  You’re on your way!

Kimberly Rae

One thought on “Letting Go

  1. I have been following your progress. As you know, I have been working on the same journey. Your words are written well. Our Lord has been my Rock and Deliverer. Every time my thoughts/feelings drifted to the one I missed, I would say a little prayer to give (let go/hand over) that person and the relationship we had to Christ and let him do what He saw fit for the glory of our God. What I found is that Jesus took my pain, sorrow, loneliness, sadness, anger, betrayal, and despair out of my heart and off my shoulders. Even if I wanted to feel those feelings, they were taken away. I had to relinquish this person whom was very special to me many times a day for many months. Jesus has healed my heart and has shown to me this opportunity to build my faith by answering my prayers.

    This person has affected me in many positive ways. I have changed and grown in many ways due to the relationship we shared. I am not the same person anymore just as my former other half is not the same person anymore. I have taken what this person has taught and shown me and have absorbed these qualities into the new me. They will forever be a part of me due to the growth God allowed this person to make in my life.

    God wants our full attention. Anything we are not willing to give up or let go of is a distraction to our relationship to God. Sometimes He will give it back with His blessings and sometime he will take it away forever. We have to have faith that God knows what is best for us. This is a hard lesson to learn and I am constantly discovering areas of my life I where I want to keep control. Through this journey, I have been taught a better understanding of why God wants us to give everything to him. Although, It still does not make it easy.

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