“The one good thing about failure is that it makes you consider doing things a different way.” ~ Marianne Williamson~
When I read this quote by Marianne, I could relate to it. But I didn’t care for the word failure. I looked back at some of the things I had done that I would have called mistakes. To call them failures would make me feel as if I did it all wrong; I was stupid, dumb, and unintelligent for a moment. We all make mistakes, but are they failures?
You hear parents call their children failures. Husbands, wives scream it at each other. “You’re a FAILURE!” How degrading and demeaning that sounds.
So why do we use the word? “I failed my test.”, “I failed at my job.”, “I failed at life.” How depressing and self-defeating. As a teacher, I never use the word fail. A child only needs to hear that once before he/she feels like they can’t do it. How about, “you made a few mistakes on your test; let’s see if we can figure out why?” Or, “My job is giving me some trouble, maybe I should ask for help.”
And then when it comes to life, the old adages pile up – “I really screwed up”, ” I really messed up this relationship.”, and the best one, “Can I start over? I didn’t quite get it the first time around.”
So we don’t always do it right the first time. The hope is that we learn from that and do things a different way the next time. Learning from our mistakes, (Not failures) is how I like to look at it. I know for some of us, it takes more than a few times to get it, to start over, to learn. I’ll be the first to admit I’ve been there:) And not too long ago:)
So in essence, no one is a failure, some of us just take a little longer to get the picture! As I tell my students, “We all learn things at a different pace. Wherever you are at is okay with me.”
Take a look at your life. Do you keep finding yourself in the same rut, same hole, or same kind of relationships? You’re not a failure. You just need to change it up!
Life lessons are usually the hardest to grasp and learn from. You can do it!
Keep moving forward!