“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you are.” ~Rachel Naomi Remen~
As I was researching for my book, I came across a quote that spoke to me. This one made me think. I don’t know how many times I have said to myself or a friend, “I’m getting better.” or “things are getting better.” And then wondered why my life wasn’t moving forward. I felt better, but not great! It took me about 8 months to figure out, I wasn’t letting go. If I was going to move on, I had to figure out what wasn’t or hadn’t worked and what I needed to do to change that.
When you get to a point in the healing process when you feel kind of stuck or you don’t feel like things are changing, maybe you haven’t looked at what is still hanging on. Have you let go of the old you? When we go through a life changing event like this, we are not the same person as we used to be. Our expectations should be different; our beliefs focused in a new direction.
We can’t keep holding on to the “why” this happened. That is what I was doing. I was so focused on the question of why he did this to me, that I couldn’t see past that. And so there I was, stuck in a rut and going nowhere.
We may never know the “Why”. And we have to be okay with that. Remember it’s their problems and their issues. We don’t have any say or control over those. Think about it; did you ever?
It’s time to focus on you and let go of everything that doesn’t define who you are. Write it down in a journal. Look at it daily. Start to see what YOU are all about!
Keep moving forward!