How do we know when or if we are ready to date again; go out to dinner, see a movie, with a man? Yes, a man! You start to feel good about yourself, you don’t think about HIM so much, so you get on a dating site or get set up by a friend. And all is right with the world. You’re excited but a little anxious and you’re thinking, yes, no more lonely nights and figuring out what to do every weekend. UNTIL…
…You go out on that first date; meet for coffee, have a drink. Whatever it is and where ever you go, you are hoping for some spark. Because if there is a spark, your mind and thoughts will no longer be on the past but what magic might happen with this person you have only talked to on the phone or chatted with online.
As you’re driving to meet him, you start having a conversation with yourself. “He sounded really nice on the phone. He likes to do a lot of the same things I love to do. He’s decent looking, I should like him, why wouldn’t I like him?” Then the past creeps in and you start thinking about HIM. How did those thoughts sneak in? Oh that Devil. God, will you handle that please? I’ve got some serious focuing to do. The anxiety sets in, you think about turning back, but you have to give it a try.
You walk up with smile, shake his hand, and have a very nice conversation getting to know each other. As you listen your mind wanders, he’s got a great job, he’s educated, he can take care of himself, that is a huge plus, check, check. Okay he’s meeting all the necessary criteria. But wait! Where is the spark? That feeling that says, I’d like to see him again, I don’t want to leave kind of WOW? He is such a nice guy but I’m just not feeling it. Where did my Mojo go? Do I even have the ability to like let alone love anyone again?
So, maybe we are not ready. I found that out this past weekend. What I realized is that I’m okay with just being single for now. It took me going out there and trying to date again to figure out, I’m not there yet. And that’s okay. When the time is right, it will happen. I’ll feel that spark, and I’ll know I’m ready.
I want to do it right, so I’m taking my time and letting God handle the rest. He’s always looking out for me.
Test the waters if you must, but listen to your inner soul. If you’re not ready don’t rush it. We want to make this one last:)
Keep moving forward,