It is the eve of one of the most romantic days of the year. Cupid has shot his arrows for years. Even the ones he hits dead on don’t always work out. We seem to be so focused on our happy ending and that perfect man or woman, that we don’t learn how to read the signs. We just let cupid prick us with his love potion as we become blinded on how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who really don’t; the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave.
We are addicted to that new love feeling. (imitation love) as Greg Baer says in his book, Real Love. It isn’t real love at all. “Real love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.” ~Greg Baer~ There is so much more to what real love is, you should really read his book. So many of us think that this is what we have, when in fact we don’t. You have to look for those red flags. Something I am learning to do.
Real love is unconditional. Not many are able to give or receive it. It takes courage.
I gave that unconditional love to the man I was with for 6 years. I accepted him, I never judged him, or tried to change him. My real love for him brought me to where I am today. I will treasure those years. All the moments in our life help define who we are. I am grateful for those 6 years of real love that I gave to him.
So… am I going to get the dozen roses, candy, or a card tomorrow? Most likely not. But I’m smiling:) because maybe this happy ending doesn’t really include a wonderful guy or woman; maybe it’s just me on my own; picking up the pieces from the one who left and starting over. Maybe the happy ending is just moving on. Take the time to find out who you are before you jump into another one of your so-called happy endings:) Let’s make the next one last:)
We can’t always help how we feel, but we need to learn how to manage those emotions so they don’t control us. Be happy tomorrow. Buy something fun for you and love yourself. You are pretty awesome!
Happy Valentines Day!