”You are the author of your own journey.  Create it!…”

My journey has taken me many places; not all of which I enjoyed, but those were choices I made.

I was fortunate enough to attend my nephews wedding in Nashville Tennessee this past weekend.  I witnessed young love at it’s best as they shared their vows with heartfelt meaning and love.

A huge family gathering no less, with lots of fun and laughter.  This was my first trip to a large function as a single woman in charge of her life.

The combined personalities of my somewhat large family provided much humor along with hours of laughter; not much time to dwell on the fact that I am the only one without a partner.  It’s at these junctures that we realize how far we have come.

A few relatives came up and asked where my former partner was.  I politely said he had moved on.  “Oh, I’m so sorry.  You two were so good together, I really liked him. What will you do now that you’re alone?”  ALONE?  It’s a mystery to me as to why people continue to focus on the fact that you have no one in your life now; as if I wasn’t keenly aware of that.  That is when you so graciously change the subject and let Aunt Harriet know how beautiful she looks in her green dress from the 60’s and put the focus on her.  It works every time:)

I put myself out there.  I danced the night away, talked to people I didn’t know and showed Aunt Harriet, that life without a man isn’t so bad.

I noticed I have an exuberant amount of self-confidence now.  I feel good about who I am and I can freely be me without being demeaned by a partner who lacked his own self confidence.

When you get to this point you may begin to realize the things that weighed you down in your past relationship.  We don’t always see these when we are deep in it.  I see them clearly now.

Healing is a process.  If you go through all the right doors you can come out a new and confident person and begin to enjoy your journey.  I know now, I can have a great time with just me:) I’ve come a long way baby!

It’s your ride – make it fantastic!

Kimberly Rae