Did you know that if you put a frog in boiling water he will hop right out and be just fine. But if you put the same frog in cool water and then gradually increase the temperature he won’t perceive the danger it is in until it’s too late and then the poor fool will boil to his death.
I found this fact to be quite interesting and immediately applied it to life. Some of us just know right away when to hop out. But how many of us start out in a relationship and begin ignoring those red flags? We gradually start to fit into the relationship by compromising who we are and what we belive to satisfy and impress the other person. We do not realize that the water is getting kind of warm. We have begun to shove those red flags or the hot water spots under the rug because if we admit now that this probably isn’t a good situation, in our minds we have failed again. If we continue to stay and justify why we are with that person then we slowly begin to die inside; all for the sake of not failing or being without someone. Why do we see it as a failure? To be able to say to yourself, this person just isn’t what I really want in my life, is a very healthy way of thinking. But how many of us do that? If we are lucky enough to get out before the darkness befalls us, we look back and say, “What was I thinking? Why did I stay for so long?” How many of you have said that one? I certainly have.
As many of us have heard over an over, “you don’t always see what you’re in until your out.” I agree somewhat, but really, if you think about it, you knew. And if you’re in it now, you know. You just couldn’t or can’t admit it to yourself. “What will I be without him/her?” “How will I survive without them?” You will be fine –It is taking that first leap out of the water before it begins to boil; the hardest step you will take. If you have been there, you know.
Why do we fee like we need to have someone in our life to define who we are? I’m fine with just me. I have my friends and family and the many projects I surround myself with. I’m not saying I don’t miss someone holding me now and then. I know that special someone will come along when the time is right. They will for you too. Be happy with where and who you are. If you aren’t, take the leap now before the water starts to boil:)
May we all live happily ever after – well mostly, which is all you can really expect out of life:) So… are you going to stay the frog or turn into a prince or princess? Your life is what you make of it!
Keep moving forward,