The tree is up, the decorations are hung with care, in hopes that Saint Nicholas will soon be here. Well, the tree is up, but I’m not sure there will be any sugar plums dancing in my head. I think I’ve outgrown that piece of the story:) I sit here and look at my beautifully decorated tree. The lights wink back at me as if to say, YOU MADE IT GIRL! I wink back at the twinkling lights and feel great about where my journey has taken me.
The holidays can be a difficult time of year for some. Especially if you have lost someone; that alone feeling can creep in and the memories start flooding into the present. I know, that was me last Christmas. As I hung each ornament, I didn’t think of the past. It didn’t creep into my psyche. Oh, there were a few ornaments that I gently re-wrapped and put back in the box, but I didn’t let my emotions take over. I bought a few new ones to hang, to represent the great place my life is in now.
Some of you might be thinking, she must have found a man or someone special to enjoy the holidays with. No, I have not. But I do have special people in my life. I have my grow-up children, my true friends, and family. All who I will spend time with and am thankful for. This time of year should be spent on the ones who are here and in our lives; not on the past and what used to be.
I know it is hard to not be sad if you are missing someone this holiday season. And you might find yourself crying over the littlest things that only mean something to you. You’ll always have your memories. Keep them tucked in a small place in your heart; I do:) Focus on who is right in front of you. Sometimes we lose sight of that in our grieving and healing.
I know it’s hard and I wish I could wrap my arms around each and every one of you who are struggling to get through the season. But take that step everyday; as little as it might be, I am here to tell you, you will smile again, laugh again, and feel the joy of the holiday season. We all heal in our own time. So don’t rush it. Pretty soon you’ll be taking giant leaps.
Smile! May the spirit of the holiday be with you.
As always, keep moving forward,