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The Dance Lesson

On By Kimberly Rae Gerodimos/MarxIn Life's journey1 Comment

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The twang and the electric sound of the country music hits my ears as I walked into the night club.  I was by myself, going to meet an old high school friend that invited me to come learn the West Coast Swing.  I love to dance, so it was obvious I would say yes. (God knew that)  What I didn’t know, is how much I was going to learn on this fine Saturday evening.

My friend paired me up with a male friend  of hers so I would have a partner.  As I walked on to the dance floor I assumed I would only be learning a new dance.  But God knew, there was a part of my past that I had not settled with.  I  loosely took his hand, the music started I was in my element and I felt great!!  As he spun me around…. There she was.  The woman who so cunningly did her best to lure my past relationship away from me.  The woman I knew, who I entertained in my home.  A woman who played the game; took him for a while and then spit him back out.  The woman who aided and abetted in breaking my heart into so many pieces that I thought I would never be able to put them back together.  As our eyes locked, I froze. Everything stopped for that moment.  But the beat goes on, as Nancy Sinatra would say.  And so did I:)

Being that I am not a vengeful person, I never said anything to her 3 and half years ago, I just let it go.  I said plenty to him, but that is another story:)  And then I think, maybe I should have.  But as I looked at her and watched her through the evening, I knew that I was so much better off.  My life was rich in love, joy, peace….   I can wake up every morning with a smile, that is genuine.  I’m happy with me:)

This dance lesson helped me put so many things into perspective.  I realized I do not want to have the love I had for him with anyone else.  I fell so deep in love with him, that I lost who I was which made the hurt even more painful.  I will love again. I didn’t let it destroy me.

God has his ways of reaching us and helping us to the next step so we are open to more of his blessings.  I had a very enjoyable evening.  I met new people, and danced with a kick in my step knowing, I am on the right path.

I leave you with some words of wisdom from someone who has lived it:)

“Memories are good. But sometimes a memory is so powerful that we get stuck in it… frozen in a minute.” ~KG~

Keep Hiking to the Top,

Faith in What’s to Come

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They say they built the train tracks between the Alps and Venice before there was a train to use them.  They just knew that it would come…

I hiked to the top of a very steep trail just to find ladybugs that inhabit the area.  As I reached the top, I was looking at a wide open field with tall grasses and flowering weeds… beautiful in their own right. But I couldn’t find a one. Not one lady bug.  The beauty in front of me was astounding.  I laid down and looked up at the puffy white clouds that seemed to move their way around the sun.  I closed my eyes and took it all in.  My mind free to flow and think.  When I opened my eyes, there were lady bugs all around me.  ~When we aren’t looking, the most amazing things are attracted to us~

I am not looking.  I have spent the last 4 years getting to know me again.  I have embraced my singleness… although there is the idea of someone to share my life with.

So… I  slowly tore down the wall that  was protecting my heart. It was time.  I opened up my heart once again.  I shared intimate moments of my life.  I opened my soul and became vulnerable to his kindness.  But I soon realized, I was just his muse.  Someone to fill a void in a seemingly happy life. (so he says)   And so the wall goes back up again… this time it is made of brick. It will soften in time:)  So I continue to live my life and wait… patiently, for the right one.  When he enters my path – I’ll know.  I’ll just know… he’s the one.

All I want is to be someone’s SOMEONE… Their only SOMEONE:)  Not just a fleeting moment in someone else’s existence. I am worth more than that.

I know my day will come. The train may not be here yet, But I have FAITH… it will come:)

As always,  Keep hiking to the top!

Kimberly Rae

Just Friends

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The sweet smell of cinnamon and sugar engulf the small space I call my writing corner. I miss having an office.  The scent of a candle can bring back memories, brighten up a mood, or take you to another place where no one can find you.  I am going to another place.  In my mind anyway.

There are days I understand life and all that it gives and others where it just doesn’t make sense.  This is a “doesn’t make sense”  kind of day.

It was my birthday yesterday.  Even though I was overpowered with birthday wishes, there was one I didn’t get.  One I couldn’t or wasn’t allowed to get.

Why can’t men and women just be friends?  I have always had male friends; married, with a girlfriend, didn’t matter.  I had no romantic interest in them.  They were just great friends.  But society and insecure women don’t see it that way.  If they have someone in their life you can’t be talking with them.  WHY NOT???  I’m not trying to take them from who they have.  I would never do that.  I’ve been on the other of that.  It is so nice talking to a man.  They don’t judge you, criticize you, they say it like is and you don’t have to second guess them.  Amazing!!!

That pit in your stomach, the “I don’t feel like eating,”  the emptiness in your heart is all that I am feeling right now.  I had to give my friend up.  He can no longer talk to me, email me, or call me.  Society has deemed it isn’t right.  I have known him since college.  I know people come and go in our lives, but I will miss him.  I do miss him… and he misses me.   But I do understand. His happiness is more important to me.  I know we will always be friends in our hearts.

Always hiking to the top,

Kimberly Rae

A Love So True

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It is officially November, Halloween has come and gone, my uncarved pumpkins remain outside my door to remind me that it is Fall, and the Christmas movies have begun to show up on the various channels that engulf our T.V’s.  And yes…  I am still single.  I am not saying that as if it is a bad thing.  I thoroughly enjoy my life and am very happy.  But there is still the idea of a man; someone to share my already happy life with:)

So many people have asked me, “What are you looking for?”  “What do you want?”

I always thought I knew exactly what I wanted in a relationship, but after talking with a long-lost friend from college, I have reassessed my wants.  I don’t like using the word “wants”   It’s more like a feeling.  It is the way I perceive love.  Some may say I am a hopeless romantic, (I am)  and my take on love is only in fairy tales.  But, I do not agree.

My take on a TRUE LOVE:

I want love, not the comfortable, safe kind.  I want extraordinary, passionate, everything is in sync love.  Where their touch electrifies my soul. When he touches my hand, my whole body quivers. Where the simplest of gestures bring a smile to my face.  When what I want most in the world, (and this is it,) adds to my happiness.  Love isn’t a fairy tale if it’s TRUE.  

So, I will keep praying,and  keep the faith, that God has someone like this for me.  I know he is out there.  He just hasn’t found me yet:)

My words of wisdom for today:  Hold out for what you truly want in life.  Don’t settle.  Love yourself first, so you can give that true love to someone else:)

Be happy in life!!

Keep hiking to the top!

Kimberly Rae

Moving Forward and Accepting the Past.

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Time has passed.

you left my world,

my space, my heart

but…

you are still here.

Part of you will always be with me.

I struggle with this,

but I have moved on.

 

You sneak into my thoughts;

my dreams

and my existence

in ways I do not understand. 

 

I miss your words, your sense of adventure,

your inspirational spirit,

but I have moved on.

 

I believe you are my soul-mate

But sadly, YOU have moved on. 

And I have accepted that:)

Life is ever changing

and My life is pretty awesome!!

 

Kimberly Rae

 

Are You Looking on the Bright Side of Life?

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As a teacher, I like to share with my students lessons in life.  Lessons they can take with them and hopefully remember the rest of their life.  I have past students who have found me and brought up some of those lessons that I shared with them. They have thanked me for the things I taught them and my positive outlook on life.  After 29  years in the classroom, I haven’t stopped sharing.

Let me share with you some of the lessons I have shared over time:

To stay positive in life, you need to surround yourself with positive people.  Get rid of the toxic friends that only bring you down. Sometimes “cleaning out your closet” so to speak, is the first step to bringing on that daily smile.  I always say, what you give you get, what you sow, you reap, and what goes around comes around.  My students understand what that means.  When you’re hurting, depressed, or just confused about life, I know this isn’t always easy. The negativism coming forth verbally and non verbally from our pain is enough to keep people away.   Laughter is always the best medicine.  I use it in my classroom and with friends.  I love to laugh; it lifts the spirits and soothes the soul.  I even laugh at myself:)

Feeling Worthy.  We are all worthy of great things in our life; a great job, great friendships, great relationships, Joy, peace,  and the list goes on.  We accept the things in life we feel we deserve.  If you feel you don’t deserve much then that is what you get.  Look at the path you are on now. Are you getting all you deserve?  Or are you stuck in a job, or a relationship that isn’t worthy of who you really are?  Again, don’t let those negative people in your life keep you from a positive self-worth.

Trying to be perfect:  Who is perfect?  If we continue to strive for that we lose sight of the journey and the great things that are happening along the way.  You don’t have to be perfect or anywhere near it to have any self-worth.  We are hard on ourselves.  But don’t judge.  Learn from your mistakes, your stumbles, and trips;  forgive yourself and forgive others and move on:)

Be thankful.  I say this many times in my classroom and with people I know and meet.  I look at what the Lord has given me and put in front of me and I am thankful everyday.  And yes, sometimes he has to hit me over the head with a brick to hear him and to learn from what is right in front of me, but I do get it.  Listen.  We don’t always appreciate what we have and just want more or something different.  Then, after it is too late, we realize we had the good thing all along.  Emotional greed and financial greed really don’t get us anywhere.  Be thankful for what you have.  The littlest things can bring you joy if you take the time to see it.

When I am having a day that isn’t so great, I have to ask myself, “What am I missing?  What am I not seeing?”  We can’t focus our energies on our pain or what someone said or didn’t say.  That is when the negativity creeps in and then it takes over and we are miserable.  Is it worth it?  Let it go.  Be happy; smile, laugh, and bring joy to others.  Pretty soon, you’ll be smiling on the inside:)

“The optimist already sees the scar over the wound; the pessimist still sees the wound underneath the scar. ~Ernst Schroder

Stay positive and as always ~ Keep hiking to the top!

Kimberly Rae