The cool breeze trickles through my window, as I sit staring off into the night. It is an abnormally 65 degrees on a Wednesday, in sunny Arizona. I’m relishing in the cool soft breeze as I know this will be the last for awhile. I understand why it’s going away. The earth has rotated. The sun is in the right place for summer to begin. It’s going to be hot; very hot, here in Arizona. We won’t see the coolness of the night for a very long time. But I know it will return, with the falling of the leaves.
What I don’t know and what I don’t understand is why people who say they love us so much, hurt us the most. They say they need space and then they leave, for something far less than you. The love they had for us got lost somewhere. What does that mean???
I dry my eyes from the tears that I shed moments ago. My children are hurting. I want to fix their pain; I want to take it away. But I can’t.
What do you tell your six foot three son who is cradled in your arms crying because the woman he loved so much cheated on him? You let him cry and you listen. Because you know what it’s like to go through that. You’ve been there. And as you cry with him, that old hurt and pain begins to surface as he tells you the lies she has deceived him with. You’ve heard them all before and you know she isn’t going to come back but you can’t tell him that, not yet anyway. He will figure it out in his own time. I, as all mothers would do, will continue to be there for him.
My daughter, who has struggled through life, found a man that she could truly love with all her being. She smiled and laughed with genuine sincerity. I was so thrilled that this wonderful man loved my daughter so much. But the happiness that radiated from her may not return with the falling of the leaves. He too, needs his space and may have fallen to someone far less than the amazing woman, I call my daughter. Again, the same words, the same stories, the same lies. “He says, he just wants to work it out, but he still loves me.” As I nod my head whispering to myself, I know, I know. She cries some more and just doesn’t know how she is going to live without him.
I reacted. Only within the confines of my 4 walls. I screamed and cursed the 3 of them. Those hurt feelings came back so quickly. Does anyone work on relationships anymore or do they just walk away and take the easy way out? No one puts any effort into love and all that should come with it. They just try on another shoe. And even if it doesn’t fit so well and is a little tattered they try to make it fit, because now its too late to take back the one they ignored and shoved in the closet. The one that shined when they were around. The one that was true and loyal and would have never left. We shouldn’t take on the victim role. Because really, we are not the victims. They are victims of their own stupidity and poor choices. We, (my children) will pick up the pieces and move on. I’m hoping that my healing can be an example for them to pick up the broken pieces of their lives and move forward. I can only be there for them and continue to pray for the strength they will need to take the next step.
As always, keep hiking to the top!